I, like many of us, have often let my perfectionism prevent me from STARTING. Things pile up around me because I can’t just do them, I have to do them RIGHT and I can’t do it right now, so it waits. It can fester. I, like many of us, am learning that anything worth doingContinue reading “The Personal, Political, and Practicing ImPerfectionism”
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Divorcing the Shoulds
I’ve lived under the weight of Shoulds for as long as I can remember. The “supposed to” Unspoken and unspeakably high expectations. Through the last decade or so, I’ve been breaking free of the Shoulds.Liberating myself bit by bit,Loosening, though not breaking my shackles. The external ones were easier to see, “Don’t Should on me!”Continue reading “Divorcing the Shoulds”
This is not a scale
This is a trap.This is going in Time Out. It can come out when I no longer imbue it with the power to determine my mood. I know who I am.I know how I feel. Yet time after time I forfeit that power— I hand it over to a number that tells me only myContinue reading “This is not a scale”
Ego
The WORST I was listening to a woman I admire and she said something that landed so hard I have to share it. She said that she can’t say she had “low self-esteem,” because she had “no self-esteem.” And that part I’d heard before and nodded along with, but then she went on to remindContinue reading “Ego”
The Extremist, the Ocean, and Enough
I’m an extremist. I understand that now. I’m a perfectionist who thinks things (myself included) are either perfect or terrible, and if I’m not perfect than I must be shit. I am unlearning that dichotomy. As a student, I’d claim I failed an exam if I landed a C. I thought I wasn’t a goodContinue reading “The Extremist, the Ocean, and Enough”
Pretty Good Ugly 