Breaking the binary of all or nothing… I know, I love it. This whole “OR” mentality. As if something has to be one or the other. Healthy or toxic. Good or bad. Right or wrong. I’m learning that here’s a whole lot of in-between.
Also, I am constantly being asked, by friends and clients, “is this healthy?” Is coconut oil healthy, is CrossFit healthy, is Keto healthy… And sometimes, I’ll admit, my militant/judgemental side will come out and label things as one or the other, but when I’m really in myself, I can ask, compared to WHAT. “Healthy” is a range. I mean, the difference between a poison and a cure is often the DOSE.
But also, there is so much wrapped up in “healthy”. We often have a picture of health in our head, primarily what it looks like. I encourage folks to explore what it feels like, what it includes, what it doesn’t.
Because “HEALTHY” isn’t a stagnant state, it’s not some peak on top of a mountain that you reach and just live there forever. Healthy is DYNAMIC. It changes person to person and day to day, it changes seasonally, it changes for one person throughout our life.
What SEEMS healthy from the outside can be deeply disordered. What looks unhealthy can be a kind indulgence. Do not look at my pizza and tell me I’m being bad. Do not look at my salad and tell me I’m being so good.
Basically, be a little gentler, a little kinder, to yourself and to those around you. There’s more going on than we know. Let’s offer the benefit of grace, y’all.
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