There’s no beautiful way to put this, I’ve been really, really mean to myself. I’m sure a lot of us have. We will say things to ourselves and about ourselves we would never accept or tolerate from or about another person.
I’ve told my clients over and over, “You can’t hate your way to healthy, you can’t bully yourself into wellness.” I say this, not from a book, but from my own experience.
I mean, books prove it too, there’s tons of them, but my experience is what informs my own lesson.
I’ve tried to be harsh, strict, disciplined, regimented, pick your word but you know what I mean. Then I’ll swing into sloth mode because I’m EXHAUSTED. But I’m learning, slowly, to be kinder, gentler, more gracious and understanding. Which allows me to be more consistent and present.
This year I broke one of my own traditions and made a New Years resolution. (I’m usually very anti-resolution as you may have inferred). I resolved to do less. To let time exist without filling it– to stop trying to fit in “one more thing”. I’ve simplified. Streamlined. It’s glorious, I highly recommend it.
If you need a sign to be kinder to yourself, to nurture and nourish yourself, take this one here. We can’t hate our way through healing. It doesn’t work that way. We have to rest, and stretch to work and grow.
Drink some water, close your eyes, know you are loved by me and others.
xox
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